Dear Annie: I am unhappy in my marriage, but I donât know whether to stay or go

Dear Annie: I have been married for 30 years and feel sad about the way things have been for the last couple of years.

My husband and I were married in May 1993, and I feel like our lives have sent us in two different directions. He is now a pastor of a church, where he has worked for more than two years. I know this is what he has been called to do, but this is not what I’ve been called to do, and I really struggle with what I should do.

I feel myself moody all the time toward him because I am not happy in this current situation. He knows how I feel, but I still struggle daily. Do I stay or should I leave to fulfill my life’s journey so I’m happy? — Unhappy

Dear Unhappy: Even if you leave your husband, it’s not clear what your life’s journey is. Take time to find out what brings you joy and will make you feel fulfilled BEFORE you make the big choice to leave him. Might be a good time to seek professional marriage counseling or individual therapy.

Unhappiness and moodiness could be a sign of depression — something that a professional can help you sort out.

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